25 years ago today my late partner Les died of complications related to lymphoma. It’s strange to even write about it anymore because it’s been so long; we were together 6 years and a lot of water has flowed beneath my bridges since then. It was a period of tremendous growth and excitement though and in looking back I’m reminded of how much I learned, how much fun I had and how amazing it was to make music with Les almost every day that we were together. I miss Les sometimes but I always miss the music.
In the months and years following Les’ death I experienced such sadness that I thought I’d never be ok ever again. But 25 years later I am ok and I’ve gone on to create a life that’s rich and full of love and constantly infused with deeply satisfying pursuits. The music is gone and that left a hole that will never be filled; other things have taken its place though and I’m mostly ok with that.
I’ve explored virtually everything I want to explore about death and Les’ death in particular. I wrote a book about our time together and it felt like that really took care of so much of what needed taking care of in my soul. I’ve talked openly and freely about him and us and my experience in all of this. At some point I realized I was happy again and that I just didn’t have much else to say.
The anniversaries come and go but 25 years feels pretty significant; a day of gratitude for my time with a beautiful and extraordinarily gifted man who showed me how to have fun and play and dance and savor life.
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25 Years
25 years ago today my late partner Les died of complications related to lymphoma. It’s strange to even write about it anymore because it’s been so long; we were together 6 years and a lot of water has flowed beneath my bridges since then. It was a period of tremendous growth and excitement though and in looking back I’m reminded of how much I learned, how much fun I had and how amazing it was to make music with Les almost every day that we were together. I miss Les sometimes but I always miss the music.
In the months and years following Les’ death I experienced such sadness that I thought I’d never be ok ever again. But 25 years later I am ok and I’ve gone on to create a life that’s rich and full of love and constantly infused with deeply satisfying pursuits. The music is gone and that left a hole that will never be filled; other things have taken its place though and I’m mostly ok with that.
I’ve explored virtually everything I want to explore about death and Les’ death in particular. I wrote a book about our time together and it felt like that really took care of so much of what needed taking care of in my soul. I’ve talked openly and freely about him and us and my experience in all of this. At some point I realized I was happy again and that I just didn’t have much else to say.
The anniversaries come and go but 25 years feels pretty significant; a day of gratitude for my time with a beautiful and extraordinarily gifted man who showed me how to have fun and play and dance and savor life.
25 Years
25 years ago today my late partner Les died of complications related to lymphoma. It’s strange to even write about it anymore because it’s been so long; we were together 6 years and a lot of water has flowed beneath my bridges since then. It was a period of tremendous growth and excitement though and in looking back I’m reminded of how much I learned, how much fun I had and how amazing it was to make music with Les almost every day that we were together. I miss Les sometimes but I always miss the music.
In the months and years following Les’ death I experienced such sadness that I thought I’d never be ok ever again. But 25 years later I am ok and I’ve gone on to create a life that’s rich and full of love and constantly infused with deeply satisfying pursuits. The music is gone and that left a hole that will never be filled; other things have taken its place though and I’m mostly ok with that.
I’ve explored virtually everything I want to explore about death and Les’ death in particular. I wrote a book about our time together and it felt like that really took care of so much of what needed taking care of in my soul. I’ve talked openly and freely about him and us and my experience in all of this. At some point I realized I was happy again and that I just didn’t have much else to say.
The anniversaries come and go but 25 years feels pretty significant; a day of gratitude for my time with a beautiful and extraordinarily gifted man who showed me how to have fun and play and dance and savor life.
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